My Oprah's Haha moment

When I write in my journal or pray to my higher power I always pray for us, and this morning I realized that I can pray for him and pray for myself totally separate!!! I can no longer question y he acts a certain way or treats me a certain way! My only concern should be me becoming a better and loving person and to love unconditionally and to show me my wrongs and help my to identify . I can no longer pray for a change in him if he is not doing it for himself! I only can pray for his well being and health. I will no longer take responsibility for his actions or his attitude I love him with all my heart and soul but I can't beat myself up any longer.